You would hear some men claiming that God revealed to them in a dream, vision or even trance, the woman they settled down with(Absolute will of God). You would also hear some other men say that they saw this beautiful lady, loved are character and personality, then shoot their shot and finally went to altar to say “Yes I do” (permissive will of God). Also there is these category of men, who claimed the woman they settled down with deceived them into marriage, just like the case of a pastor in a popular church in Nigeria, However, for every man that claims he was deceived into marriage, there exist tendencies he was attracted by material things of the lady in quote.
Whether absolute or permissive will of God, the man must shoot his shot diligently else the lady would turn whosoever will down.
Straight to our subject of discussion. Absolute will or Permissive will of God which is the best
Without doubt, the absolute will of God exist though this present generation take that as a myth. however to some of us it is not, because our fathers told us how God revealed our mothers to them in the days of their youths.
The good thing is that whether permissive or absolute of will of God, the marriage can be peaceful. I have seen people that God married under absolute will of God have marital issues, also i have seen people who got married under the absolute will God have marital issues. Nonetheless, I have seen people that got married under will of God have a very successful marriage, also seen people who clique to the permissive will have live in a successful marriage. From the phrase above, you can decipher that humans(partners) have more work to do in marriage than God. Assuming the foundations and maintenance of marriage under absolute will of God is left for only God, then you wont see that marriage of Christians that stocked to that HIS will not fumble because God is infallible. However, humans have a higher role to play in marriage. Just like you have to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, so also you have to work out your marriage. It is in no way the responsibility of God to work out your marriage
So which do we stick to: the absolute or permissive will of God concerning marriage.
Personally, I have analyzed the marriage of the olden days in tow broad categories:
a. People who stocked to the absolute will of God and
b. People who stocked to the permissive will of God
In my analysis of these categories, I discovered something in common which is, the both have peace provided they work out the marriage. But on the other hand, I discovered something which in my opinion is the main reason God revealed oftenly to our fathers who to choose as a life partner.
Coming to child bearing, those who choose according to the absolute will of God never gave birth to sickle cell child. However, some that stocked to the permissive will of God might give birth to sickle cell child , this is sad but true. So what the absolute will of God was avoiding is mainly marriage between AS and AS genotypes as our fathers have little or no knowledge of blood groups or genotypes in those days. Although some AS still marry themselves with the backup claim that it is through God’s revelation, I have personally seen this happen in a certain church, where an AS man and AS lady were united in the holy matrimony under the solid claim by the man, that it is the absolute will of God as revealed to him
In conclusion, whether absolute or permissive, couples can still enjoy their marriage, but must decide to work it out. Nothing works accidentally, the two must decide, plan and work towards it. You must acknowledge that it is not God’s, this is among the reason some cleric’s marriage fumbles while some people that are not even Christians have a prosperous marriage
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