Divorce is an act of separation of two people who legally got married to each other either by religion, court or tradition. From decades ago, the rate of divorce has been on the increase for some reasons I will unveil in this article “3 major causes of divorce”.
Not only has the rate of divorce as shown by statistics been on the increase decades ago but also divorce has crept into Christianity and even other religions. What could have been the reasons of divorce increase today? Below are the major causes of divorce:
1. Unhealthy Courtship
Courtship is a form of relationship between to-be husband and wife so as to test for compatibility. In unhealthy courtship the one of the two parties or even both parties use pretense to convince the other or each other that they are prefect match, they fail to demonstrate their real character during courtship and only brings out the character that are generally good. But you know what? true identity cannot be hidden forever, no one can cover fire with bare hand for a very long time.
Nonetheless, religion also plays a role in some unhealthy courtship seen today. Some churches in Nigeria and other African countries prohibits regular meeting of the to-be couple. The young man is not permitted to visit the lady at home nor the reverse, There is no time for physical discussion between the two parties courting. If by any means they want to discuss at length. they should do it in the church and must first inform the cleric in charge. They aren’t even permitted to go for blood screening together; it is a law like ” if you see the other, run as far as you could”. failure to comply might read to cancellation of wedding ceremony between the two.
If such parties marry each other later, they probably would find some characters they dread in each other which would lead to regrets and endurance as character is hard to change. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured. Once endurance comes up in marriage, it looses assurance.
The reason Jacob hated his wife Leah as because he was deceived into marrying her; Jacob served Laban for seven years in order to marry her daughter Rachel. After the end of the seventh year, Laban gave his first daughter to Jacob at night instead of the second daughter Rachael
A similar thing happened to a pastor in a famous church in Nigeria, after some years of “no child” the pastor and his wife opted for a fertility test. Shockingly to the pastor, the woman had even entered menopause before their wedding day. Meanwhile, the woman deceived her she was younger than her actual age. You can read the full gist by clicking on the blue letters: Woman deceived Pastor into marriage
Also some man pretend to be rich just to get the heart of the lady they wish to marry; this is totally dangerous .Once someone discovers you lied to him or her especially in marriage cases, trust vanishes. And a marriage without trust is like sword without handle. Check out reason some men do not love their wives for more understanding
Adultery is among the sins apostle Paul emphasized it should not be mentioned in the church. Unfortunately it is now being mentioned. Adultery is now becoming common even in christian homes.
A good percentage of acclaimed christian men commit adultery and use the phrase “it is natural for a man to cheat or men is polygamous naturally” as a reason for their act but forgetting that from the beginning it was not so: God created only Eve for Adam . Also, women are not exclude in this evil saga.
Some men are faithful while poor but become unfaithful when rich. This is not because of the money, but because of lack of self control and discipline. Any man that becomes a cheat because f wealth is a cheat even at his poverty, just that he lacks the fund because cheating is expensive. Remember the bible record that whoever looks at a lady lustfully has already committed adultery; adultery is cheating. So a poor man can also be a cheat.
Among the major causes of divorce is “marrying outside God’s will”. This is however can be contended or arguable. Some christian folks would tell you that “he who finds a wife” while some would say “God has created a specific woman for every man”.
In conclusion, knowing the major of causes of divorce is not enough, avoiding this reasons is more important. However, someone needs theory before practical. Undergo a healthy courtship, avoid deceit(especially the ladies, do not lie to any guy seeking for marriage; tell him you real age, any marriage built on lies would struggle for survival). And to the men, debunk that idea that men are polygamous in nature, even some men that married 4 wives still cheat. Just decide not to cheat come what may and then seek for empowerment of the spirit.
Check this blog next week Monday for the topic “Valid reason for divorce”
Do you think there is any other major causes of divorce in christian homes today? Please let us know on the comment box